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Feb 15
15:37
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 7 months and our entire relationship he has always asked to borrow money! The minimum he has ever owed was $200. And when he gives me gives for Valentine's Day and stuff I get mad because I could have been getting my money back. And when he does pay that back he will wait and ask me for more. I always have to lie about how much I have saved and I can't go shopping because he gets mad if I couldn't lend him money. I am not a rich female by all means I struggle too. Is this wrong that I am started to not want to be with him because of this
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Feb 15
15:45
I wouldn't lend him anymore until he pays you back, and even then I would be wary. That's a lot of money. If he gets annoyed, tell him he can't use you like that
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Feb 15
15:52
This is a perfectly legitimate reason to not want to be with someone. It is laughable that he thinks he has any right to get mad when you spend your money as you please. How absolutely hypocritical of him that he doesn't want you to go shopping so that you can lend him money. And for what, exactly? You're not a bank. You do not have any obligation to lend him money. (In fact, an actual bank would not lend him money if he has a poor habit of taking too long to pay back the loan.) I'm afraid he is taking advantage of your kindness, and you have every right to put your foot down.
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Feb 15
15:58
Quit giving him money. You aren't his piggy bank
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Feb 15
16:13
Seems like he's using you. Get you someone that doesn't mooch off of you
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Feb 15
16:16
Sounds like he's only dating your for the money love
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Feb 15
16:17
Sounds like a "SCRUB"
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Feb 15
16:20
Quit lending him money. If you guys were to break up, he most likely wouldn't pay you back what he owes.
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Feb 15
17:13
This is why I don't loan boyfriends money anymore. You start to keep a tally and then things just turn sour when they feel like you aren't there for them 🙄. You really need to have a serious conversation on how you are going to be equally contributing to the relationship. Finances, etc.
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Feb 15
17:14
Don't date someone that feels entitled to you or your things.
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Feb 15
17:15
I would get my money back and be out the door
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Feb 15
17:27
if he truly respected you he'd respect the fact that you've given him money and would pay you back as possible. and he certainly wouldn't get upset with you when you spend your money because he has no place to talk. he's taking advantage of you, in my opinion.
 
Feb 15
19:23
He is definitely taking advantage of your kindness! He has no right to question you on how you spend your own money, especially when you have no financial ties to each other (i.e bills, children, a mortgage)
 
Feb 15
19:40
That's not a healthy relationship, he's treating you like his Sugar Momma. That would be a deal breaker for me, I wouldn't have lent him money in the first place.
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Feb 15
21:41
My boyfriend has never asked me for money and $200 minimum is still a lot to ask for. I would be asking what he is buying with all this money as well as stop giving him money
 
Feb 15
21:44
Thank you everybody! It's nice to hear opinions to give you strength to say what you need
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